Hidden Dangers of Eating Alone
Last Updated: April 4, 2013
In this fast-paced world, few families make time to eat together
anymore. And because eating alone-and on the go-is becoming more
common, nutrition usually suffers.
That may be especially true for seniors. Cooking for one person
can be harder because they have to scale down recipes, and it's
also not as much fun. Instead of stimulating dinner conversation,
the television becomes the other person at the table.
"Unfortunately a lot of meal choices turn out to be what's quick
and easy to obtain," explains Anne Linge, a dietician at the
University of Washington Medical Center in Seattle.
While many seniors are very active, others don't have the energy
or ability to prepare meals for themselves. Some may have never set
foot in the kitchen, or they're no longer physically able to
prepare complex meals.
After her grandmother lost a considerable amount of weight in
just a few months, Gretchen Kenney insisted that she move in with
her and her husband, David, in Shoreline, Washington.
"She lost like 40 pounds, she just stopped eating," Kenney
explains. "Part of it was her health, her arthritis; she couldn't
get around very easily. She was just depressed and didn't want to
After moving in with the Kenneys, her grandmother slowly put
some of that weight back on.
"I make sure that she gets a much better balance," Kenney says.
"Given what she wants, she would be happy with sweets and
carbohydrates. She will ask for vegetables mostly because she
thinks she should have them."
Tips for Encouraging Seniors to Eat
- Make sure they have a comfortable place to eat; set out a nice
placemat and linen napkin, or fresh flowers.
- Have a picnic in the park.
- Find a neighbor or friend for your loved one to eat with on a
regular basis-have them take turns cooking the meal or cook
- Start (or have your loved one start) a potluck dinner
- If finances are not an issue, hire a personal chef to create a
week's worth of meals for the fridge and freezer, or contact a
gourmet meal delivery service.
- Have your loved one join a mall walker program (they often have
breakfast with others in the group after their walks).
- Have breakfast for dinner, or dinner for breakfast.
- When cooking, make extra, then freeze in single servings. Make
sure to label not only what it is, but cooking instructions as
well, so no one has to go hunting for cooking or reheating
- Keep a list of what's in the freezer or fridge on the
refrigerator door; it's easier to plan a meal when your loved one
knows what she has.
- Encourage your loved one to eat congregate meals at the local
- Sign up for elderly programs like Meals on Wheels
- If your loved one has trouble chewing, puree several pieces of
fruit, and add a little protein powder, for a shake full of
vitamins, minerals, and fiber. Make more than one serving and put
the rest in the freezer for later.
Contributing Factors to Malnutrition
Inadequate nutrition can lead to a weakening of the immune
system, increasing the risk of illness or infections, or
contributing to mental confusion. And continued malnutrition could
depression, which in turn could lead to a loss of appetite-a
For the elderly, other factors can contribute to malnutrition,
including lack of money to buy adequate food, or transportation to
the grocery store.
Linge had a client who lived directly across the street from a
grocery store-but on the third floor. "She was trapped in her
building because of her physical abilities and she couldn't get
what she needed," Linge says. "So, when you think about your
parents and their needs, think not only do they have enough income
to purchase what they need, but, secondly, is shopping something
they are able to do?"
Easing the Burden
Be sure to ask them if they are having difficulty with chewing
or swallowing, if food tastes too bland, or if they've lost their
appetite (it could be because of medications they may be taking, or
possibly depression, which can have serious consequences). Also,
check their refrigerator and see what kinds of food are in there,
and whether any have passed the expiration date. Ask your loved one
if they would prefer that you bring in groceries for them to cook,
or that you cook for them.
To alleviate the burden of cooking for one, grocery store delis
have a wide variety of nutritious, pre-cooked foods, such as
roasted chicken and salads with raw vegetables. A whole chicken can
last a senior for several meals (but it's best not to keep it for
more than three or four days; after that, it may spoil). Buy a
package of vegetables or meat already cut up for stir-fry, or a
pre-made meatloaf that just needs to go in the oven. If they think
food is too bland, enhance the flavor with olive oil, vinegars,
garlic, or spices (but not salt). Cinnamon, cloves, ginger, and
turmeric are also good for the digestion.
Eating is a Social Act
Getting together with other people-whether seniors or not-can
make cooking and eating more fun.
"Sometimes seniors have been really creative and have gotten
together with other seniors in their neighborhood or their building
and said 'Let's get together and today I'll make the meal and
tomorrow you'll make the meal,'" Linge says.
Finding a neighborhood hangout is also a good idea. "There are
cafes in any community where seniors tend to gather. They will have
their regulars in there who will be in there almost daily," Linge
says. "Even if you're a party of one, you can see other
Living in a retirement home or assisted living
community may help some seniors eat better.
"It makes a huge difference when you get residents sitting at a
table together," explains gerontologist Ashley Kraft, the "Life's
Neighborhood" Director at Aegis at Northgate a
Seattle assisted living facility with Alzheimer's and dementia
care. "It brings back the memories of eating with your family.
What happens, especially with dementia, is they forget about the
things we take for granted, knowing that we're hungry, knowing that
we're thirsty, or they don't know how to explain that feeling."
While many people may not eat as well when eating alone as they
would sitting down at a family meal, there are many options to
ensure adequate nutrition. Whether by finding friends to eat with,
using easy-to-prepare recipes, or making a change in the living
situation, your loved one can still stay healthy with your help and
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